[O.W.W.L. Success Tip] Are you emotionally irresponsible? How do you know?
Many of my clients and O. W. L. Certified Coaches didn’t really understand the role emotions have on their lives, including wealth, weight, and leadership. They either feel emotions deeply, which distracts them from their goals, or they don’t feel them at all. Either way is not a powerful, responsible strategy.
Mother Teresa once said, “Let us always meet each other with a smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.”
This is a perfect example of being emotionally responsible. Mother Teresa knew what science is now proving: our emotions literally change our world and impact those around us either positively and/or negatively.
Leaders’ emotions drive their team and actually impact employee morale, job satisfaction and productivity. In recent studies, it has been proven that our emotions are contagious. Just like the flu, we can catch another persons stress, negativity and/or happiness.
According to studies conducted by Dr. Paul Ekman, universal emotions like surprise, fear, happiness, disgust, contempt and sadness are found in all cultures and nationalities, and are detectable even when a person is attempting to conceal them. They are transferred to others through our facial expressions, body language, postures, and voices.
Emotions not only can be transferred through personal contact, they are also finding them being transferred through social media. In a collaborative Facebook study with Cornell University, UC San Francisco and Facebook, it was found that people exposed to positive or negative posts on FB, would follow suit with a positive or a negative post, depending on what they saw. The effect of the posts would last about a week with them continuing to post positive or negative posts depending on what they had been exposed too.
You have probably experienced this in your family, at work, or being involved with people anywhere. Some people come in and are a beam of light; others come in and suck the air out of the room with their cloud of negativity. The big question is: Who are you? How do you show up? Do people love seeing you show up, or are they secretly dreading your appearance?
These are some difficult questions and often not ones you want to know the answer to. However, awareness is the key to change. Being an authentic leader requires you to know yourself and your impact on others.
We are all called to be kind, civil, and respectful. One way to develop this quality is through Loving-Kindness Meditation. This meditation focuses your attention on actually being the light or being loving and kind in the world.
One practice is to daily sit quietly, take some deep breaths, and offer thoughts of loving/kindness to you, others and to all humanity everywhere. Do this for about 5 minutes daily and see your life and the impact you have on others transform.
Sending you loving kindness,
PS. Becky Benes hosts the A. W. E. (Authentic Women Empowerment) November 4, 2015. Click here for details and registration.
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Planting Seeds — and Allowing God to Make Them Manifest
Becky Benes is a friend and client. She is a transformational speaker and authentic leadership development coach. www.OnenessOfLife.com. I love Becky’s article on planting seeds and the lessons learned from bluebonnets. Enjoy! Janis
Planting Seeds — and Allowing God to Make Them Manifest
by Becky J. Benes
Driving through the hill country the past two weekends was an awe-inspiring experience. There was no spot where the majesty of God’s beauty, brilliance, and abundance was not in full view. Over each hill was yet another panoramic view which took my breath away.
As I spoke to the hill country natives about the bluebonnets, they were quick to say, “Well, we did not have any last year!”
“Really,” I said, “there were no bluebonnets?”
“That’s right, none!” they would say.
I pondered this as I drove in continued amazement of the blanketed fields of hues of blue, red, green, yellow and white.
I began to ask, “Where were you last year?” “How can you be ‘no-where’ last year and ‘now-here’ in such abundance this year?”
This is the insight I received…
- We (the blue bonnets) were here all along, just lying dormant, resting, taking a break, rejuvenating ourselves.
- We were here, just not visible to your eye.
- We were here, just waiting for a bit of moisture and coolness.
- We were here, just patiently waiting to burst forth with new life and vibrancy.
- We were here, just waiting to surprise you, to dazzle you with our brilliance, to take your breath away.
- Even though you did not see us, we were here.
Wow, how many times do I forget that what I experience with my senses is not all that there is? There is a realm of the invisible, the unknown, the mystery of God-Creation all around me of which I may not be aware.
This is a powerful message for me in the area of trust in reaching my goals and objectives. I sometimes feel as if I am in a drought, going nowhere, stagnant and dull, whether in my life, my business, my marriage, my parenting, my friendships, and/or my writings. I am not seeing, hearing, touching or experiencing the fruits of my labor.
Have you ever felt this way?
This trip through the hill country, helped me to remember, that it is my role in life to plant the seeds, to take the action, to be obedient and to do well what I am called to do. I am to put forth my best in my work and my action (my seeds) and allow them to unfold into the majesty and brilliance that God has planned for them.
It is up to God — the Invisible Force of All Life to deliver the outcome.
The exciting thing is that, just as with the bluebonnets, one moment the seeds we plant seem to be no-where and then suddenly they are now-here. At first, they show up in patches and then all of a sudden they blanket entire valleys and fields.
Consider the message of the bluebonnets as a message of hope for you in your life and your business.
As an authentic leader, if you have a dream, follow your heart; don’t lose sight of the end result. Know that the power of the Universe-God is working in the realm of the unseen to make your desire come into fruition. It may take a bit longer to see, to feel, to smell and to touch but know that it is God’s great pleasure to give you the keys to the kingdom.
We all have the seeds of greatness within us, which we are called to plant and to disperse these seeds out into the world for the greater good of all.
What are your seeds? Are you planting them?
It is something to consider — what seems no-where is probably now-here.
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