Ontology

[O.W.W.L. Success Tip] Are you emotionally irresponsible? How do you know?

Many of my clients and O. W. L. Certified Coaches didn’t really understand the role emotions have on their lives, including wealth, weight, and leadership. They either feel emotions deeply, which distracts them from their goals, or they don’t feel them at all. Either way is not a powerful, responsible strategy.

Mother TeresaMother Teresa once said, “Let us always meet each other with a smile, for the smile is the beginning of love.”

This is a perfect example of being emotionally responsible. Mother Teresa knew what science is now proving: our emotions literally change our world and impact those around us either positively and/or negatively.

Leaders’ emotions drive their team and actually impact employee morale, job satisfaction and productivity. In recent studies, it has been proven that our emotions are contagious. Just like the flu, we can catch another persons stress, negativity and/or happiness.

According to studies conducted by Dr. Paul Ekman, universal emotions like surprise, fear, happiness, disgust, contempt and sadness are found in all cultures and nationalities, and are detectable even when a person is attempting to conceal them. They are transferred to others through our facial expressions, body language, postures, and voices.

Emotions not only can be transferred through personal contact, they are also finding them being transferred through social media. In a collaborative Facebook study with Cornell University, UC San Francisco and Facebook, it was found that people exposed to positive or negative posts on FB, would follow suit with a positive or a negative post, depending on what they saw. The effect of the posts would last about a week with them continuing to post positive or negative posts depending on what they had been exposed too.

You have probably experienced this in your family, at work, or being involved with people anywhere. Some people come in and are a beam of light; others come in and suck the air out of the room with their cloud of negativity. The big question is: Who are you? How do you show up? Do people love seeing you show up, or are they secretly dreading your appearance?

These are some difficult questions and often not ones you want to know the answer to. However, awareness is the key to change. Being an authentic leader requires you to know yourself and your impact on others.

We are all called to be kind, civil, and respectful. One way to develop this quality is through Loving-Kindness Meditation. This meditation focuses your attention on actually being the light or being loving and kind in the world.

One practice is to daily sit quietly, take some deep breaths, and offer thoughts of loving/kindness to you, others and to all humanity everywhere. Do this for about 5 minutes daily and see your life and the impact you have on others transform.

Sending you loving kindness,
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[O.W.W.L. Success Tip] Would you rather work hard or work soft?

Do you feel you are really working hard?

 
What would it look like if you chose to “work soft”…and get everything.

woman in the fieldIn observing and buddying with Ellen for two years, I have noticed that she runs her very lucrative coaching business while raising two boys and a husband. (…not raising the husband, but having one!) She also takes the summer months off every year, runs several programs at once, and has written several books. Ellen doesn’t work; she PLAYS! She giggles when she has a breakthrough. She calls breakdowns “interesting.”

What I have gleaned from Ellen’s philosophy is that “working soft” is a mindset.  It includes having inspired action and joyful implementation.  It shifts “have to and should” to “delighted to and excited to.”  Working soft doesn’t make anything wrong or bad. It makes things a puzzle or a game or an opportunity.

Change your philosophy to “I work soft, not hard” by asking yourself these questions:

  • What sabotaging beliefs do you have that feed the working hard cycle?  E.g. I have to trade time for dollars, everything takes longer to do, I have to do it all myself
  • What new beliefs will you practice instead? E. g. I am fully-supported by excellent people, I can get two hits with one swing, self-care is my first priority

I am a champion for you getting the life you love!
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Success Story:

You’re like one of those really, really huge trees in the redwoods forest – your roots go so deep, your branches are so expansive – you reach the heavens, and entire colonies grow and flourish in your arms.

Sue Tsigaros, Executive Mastery Coach, Sidney, Australia

[Guest Blogger] Developing a Spiritual Life

WorshipRecovering from a serious illness or a profound life event can be a time of confusion and uncertainty when every suppressed emotion rises up to tear us down. Choosing to include a spiritual side to your life may feel overwhelming, but at the same time we know that a spiritual life is a worthwhile choice. We may wonder about the practicality of it. How can we live spiritually when everything around us is based on the material world?

Although personal and spiritual growth comes from within, most people appreciate the friendship, support and companionship of belonging to a religious affiliation or spiritual center. Through a spiritual relationship with a higher power, you will feel good about yourself and discover the peace and joy of abundant living. Spirituality can provide you with a foundation to go back to no matter what happens in your life. Furthermore, the power of prayer helps us experience a stronger connection with God every day.

Mindfulness

As you begin to create your new life, consider building a foundation for your spiritual self. Be mindful of what you are doing and of where you put your attention. Mindfulness helps us stay connected to our priorities. What brings us peace and joy is the foundation of our inner priorities: being spiritual lead, speaking our truth, and treating others with loving kindness. You will find that your inner priorities are more important than your outer priorities. Treat yourself with compassion when you fall down on your priorities.

Daily devotions

The Joy of Loving: A Guide to Daily Living consists of messages written by Mother Teresa and compiled by Jaya Chalika and Edward Le Joly. This guide for daily spiritual living includes messages for each calendar day and is useful to both the believer and the nonbeliever. The authors write…

“Mother Teresa speaks as the conscience of the world. She is a lighthouse for believers, sending rays of light that show the way in semi-darkness. And to nonbelievers in God, she is an anchor steadying their ship in rough waters.”

An easy way to get started is to begin each day, by opening this book and reading an inspirational message from Mother Teresa.

Ministry groups, retreats, broadcasts, podcasts and Apps

Consider meeting with the pastor or the spiritual leader of your local church if you have questions about how to proceed with your spiritual journey. There are many ministry groups, retreats and bible studies in your local community that can offer you the opportunity to make caring friendships with like-minded individuals.

You may also develop yourself spiritually through books, music, broadcasts, podcasts, blogs, Apps and tours of your favorite spiritual leader. Unique Daily Affirmations, a downloadable App for your cell phone, may keep you inspired to continue on your path to positive living. Let your curiosity lead you on your spiritual path. Reach out and connect with others as you explore your spiritual self.

About Gale

GaleOBrienGale O’Brien is a cancer survivor, motivational speaker and the award-winning author of Transformation: Creating an Exceptional Life in the Face of Cancer now available in both English and Spanish. Transform your life each month with timely tips on food, health, fitness, relationships, and work. Subscribe to the Transformation monthly newsletter or order her book by visiting: www.GaleOBrien.com.

Planting Seeds — and Allowing God to Make Them Manifest

Becky Benes is a friend and client. She is a transformational speaker and authentic leadership development coach. www.OnenessOfLife.com. I love Becky’s article on planting seeds and the lessons learned from bluebonnets. Enjoy! Janis

Planting Seeds — and Allowing God to Make Them Manifest
by Becky J. Benes

bluebonnetsDriving through the hill country the past two weekends was an awe-inspiring experience. There was no spot where the majesty of God’s beauty, brilliance, and abundance was not in full view. Over each hill was yet another panoramic view which took my breath away.

As I spoke to the hill country natives about the bluebonnets, they were quick to say, “Well, we did not have any last year!”

“Really,” I said, “there were no bluebonnets?”

“That’s right, none!” they would say.

I pondered this as I drove in continued amazement of the blanketed fields of hues of blue, red, green, yellow and white.

I began to ask, “Where were you last year?” “How can you be ‘no-where’ last year and ‘now-here’ in such abundance this year?”

This is the insight I received…

  • We (the blue bonnets) were here all along, just lying dormant, resting, taking a break, rejuvenating ourselves.
  • We were here, just not visible to your eye.
  • We were here, just waiting for a bit of moisture and coolness.
  • We were here, just patiently waiting to burst forth with new life and vibrancy.
  • We were here, just waiting to surprise you, to dazzle you with our brilliance, to take your breath away.
  • Even though you did not see us, we were here.

Wow, how many times do I forget that what I experience with my senses is not all that there is? There is a realm of the invisible, the unknown, the mystery of God-Creation all around me of which I may not be aware.

This is a powerful message for me in the area of trust in reaching my goals and objectives. I sometimes feel as if I am in a drought, going nowhere, stagnant and dull, whether in my life, my business, my marriage, my parenting, my friendships, and/or my writings. I am not seeing, hearing, touching or experiencing the fruits of my labor.

Have you ever felt this way?

This trip through the hill country, helped me to remember, that it is my role in life to plant the seeds, to take the action, to be obedient and to do well what I am called to do. I am to put forth my best in my work and my action (my seeds) and allow them to unfold into the majesty and brilliance that God has planned for them.

It is up to God — the Invisible Force of All Life to deliver the outcome.

The exciting thing is that, just as with the bluebonnets, one moment the seeds we plant seem to be no-where and then suddenly they are now-here. At first, they show up in patches and then all of a sudden they blanket entire valleys and fields.

Consider the message of the bluebonnets as a message of hope for you in your life and your business.

As an authentic leader, if you have a dream, follow your heart; don’t lose sight of the end result. Know that the power of the Universe-God is working in the realm of the unseen to make your desire come into fruition. It may take a bit longer to see, to feel, to smell and to touch but know that it is God’s great pleasure to give you the keys to the kingdom.

We all have the seeds of greatness within us, which we are called to plant and to disperse these seeds out into the world for the greater good of all.

What are your seeds? Are you planting them?

It is something to consider — what seems no-where is probably now-here.

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