[O.W.W.L. Success Tip] How’s your “Poop Filter” working?

When I had an argument with my daughter last week, my friend Kathy provided support and shared with me a great distinction called the “Poop Filter.” Thank you, Kath! I loved Kathy’s explanation, and I have embellished it as this week’s Ontological Wealth, Weight, and Leadership Success Tip.

O.W.W.L. Success Tip: Poop filters can help or hinder good communication. (Click to Tweet)

A poop filter results in miscommunication. Imagine a nice clean coffee filter. When you use it to make coffee, the coffee tastes like coffee. But if you were to drag the clean filter through dog poop first, the coffee would taste like dog poop. Kathy reminded me that if my daughter was wearing a poop filter, my conversation in trying to support her would sound/smell like poop to her – NOT the meaning I had intended, but how she interpreted it.

Relationships, especially mothers/daughter relationships, come equipped with poop filters. So if your words are interpreted in a negative way which you did not intend, the other person might be wearing a poop filter. If so, don’t take it personally.

I believe that we can utilize the concept of poop filters for ourselves in a productive way. If you notice you are wearing a poop filter and are reacting negatively to someone’s remarks, remove your filter and replace it with a nice clean one – one without judgment, assumption, or defensiveness.

How do we spot and remove our poop filters? Don’t make any assumptions, be your best version of yourself, and always give people the benefit of the doubt.

Warmly,

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