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[O.W.W.L. Success Tip] What vital element might be missing from your communication style?
In last week’s Thursday O.W.W.L. Journey blog post, guest author and client Megan Feldman wrote a great personal experience which reminded me of a most important element in human relationships.
O.W.W.L. Success Tip: Substitute defense with compassion in uncomfortable communications. (Click to Tweet)
When we have uncomfortable relationships or disagreements, the first thing we might do is to protect and defend ourselves. We rationalize, make excuses, or make the other person wrong. When we are hurt or angered, it’s hard to do otherwise.
However, a more empowering approach is to access our compassionate side, the higher self who sees both sides of the situation. Compassion brings us together and allows a greater understanding with-out the fear that we or they are not enough.
What would you have to let go of in order to be compassionate with others? What would you have to embrace to be compassionate with yourself? Why not practice compassion this week?
Compassionately,
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[O.W.W.L Journey] Guest blog post on a vital insight – Compassion!
I love to feature my clients and their brilliance in my posts! Megan Feldman Bettencourt’s award-winning journalism has appeared in publications including Details, Glamour, and Southwest: The Magazine. Her first book, Triumph of the Heart: Forgiveness in an Unforgiving World, launches from Penguin this summer. You can pre-order it here, and visit her here.
Self-Compassion: Why it Matters
Most of us are harder on ourselves than we are on others. Why does it matter? Research shows that people who are able to forgive themselves are happier in their relationships and perform better in work and play than their more self-blaming peers.
A few weeks ago I was trying to will my newborn to sleep. I’d changed him, fed him, and burped him, so why was he still wailing? By 6 a.m., I hadn’t slept and was losing my mind. I actually emailed my husband, who was asleep in the other room, and titled my message, “Please shoot me.” He soon found me sobbing and unable to form an intelligible sentence. He took one look at our son and said, “It looks like he’s cold.” That was it. He was cold. He needed more clothing, and once we put some on, he went right to sleep.
I felt like an idiot. But then I stopped myself. If I kept up the self-flagellation through every minor oversight, the next 18 years would be hell for all of us (and visiting his mother in a mental hospital would certainly be embarrassing for the poor kid). I’m certainly not perfect at self-love, but I’m getting better. On another recent night, after I accidentally spilled a container of all-too-valuable breast milk, I just laughed at my delirium, cleaned it up, and moved on. Life is so much easier when we stop wasting time berating ourselves and remember to have a sense of humor. Not to mention, give ourselves the kindness and compassion we would give a friend.
Remember to give yourself a break today! What can you forgive yourself for today?
The thing that is really hard and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself. ~ Anna Quindlen
[O.W.W.L. Success Tip] Which Pillar of Success is missing from your leadership?
I have written previously about the two pillars of success for any endeavor. I featured one of these in last Thursday’s blog post with an article written by client and colleague Gale O’Brien. She knows this first-hand, as she is a cancer survivor and health advocate.
O.W.W.L. Success Tip: To attain ultimate success in any endeavor, you must have 90% or above in the two Pillars of Success.
The first pillar of success is Well-Being, as Gale’s article discusses. In leadership, we call this Leader Care with a daily practice of doing things that regenerate, renew, and resource you.
The second pillar of success is integrity, which means being whole and complete – no parts broken. High integrity means doing things from commitment, inspiration, and because you said you would. Keeping your promises to yourself and others is a hallmark of a great leader.
Are you at 100% in both of these? If not, what can you do today to move in that direction?
Warmly,
P.S. I am hosting a free live teleclass you will want to attend on May 13. It covers the three areas that warm the cockles of my heart: weight loss sabotages, building businesses, and making money. Watch for more information coming soon on how to register for the free class.
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