[OWWL Success Tip] Do you eat the crumbs?

In working with my business, weight, and coach certification clients, I often find that they are settling for crumbs.

O.W.W.L. Success Tip: Don’t eat the crumbs when you can have the whole banquet (the “whole enchilada” in New Mexico terms)!

Why are you eating just crumbs? Do you think you don’t deserve to have it all? Or do you think you have to take what you can get? Do you ask for what you want? Or do you hope that someone else will toss you a morsel?

A relationship counselor told me once that I could list the qualities I wanted in a relationship, but I couldn’t have them all. I fired him. I thought I deserved to have it all.

My life coach client didn’t think she deserved more, so she settled for a man who criticized her and drained her energy. He had some good qualities in the mix too so she tolerated the criticism. I told her, “Love doesn’t hurt. The man who loves you wants to uplift and uphold you, not bring you down.” Yes, this client can have a man who respects and cherishes her for exactly who she is. She doesn’t have to settle for the crumbs. (And he is a crumb.)

My coach certification client didn’t think she could succeed, so from desperation she attracted a client who was late to coaching sessions, wouldn’t do assignments, and paid late. I asked her, “Why do you put up with this? Our ideal clients empower us as coaches and work with us as a team.” This crumb was NOT an ideal client. This coach was settling for crumbs.

An advanced coach training client doubted her abilities to grow her business, so she charged way too little and over delivered way too much. When I asked her to quiz her clients about the value she provided to them, their answers proved that she had been settling for the crumbs.

It’s our mindset that causes us to settle for less than we really want. Our beliefs get in our own way. In what ways are you compromising yourself by settling for only the crumbs? What are the disempowering mindsets or beliefs about yourself that allow it to happen? What is one thing you can do right now to change your mindset? What is one crumb that you will no longer settle for so that you may enjoy the full banquet?

Sincerely,

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Success Story

Janis is one of the most powerful coaches I know and has had incredible success with her O.W.L. program. Women actually lose weight and keep it off, not to mention all of the myriad of other benefits and breakthroughs they have.

Norah Edelstein, Topanga, CA, Ontological Life Coach