[Current OWWL Journey] Balancing work and family
When I realized things were in turmoil with my girls in November, my first response was to drop everything and focus on them – finding therapists, holding family meetings, and doing research on the condition. My business was doomed to take a back seat. Work/family balance did not an seem to be an option.
However, with the strong coaching of my mentors, I realized this was not an “either/or” decision. It was a “both/and” decision. The opportunity to help people heal from within to be their most excellent selves is a daily occurrence within my business, so why couldn’t I also be building my business while helping my family heal?
I am happy to report that steady improvement continues to occur with my granddaughters and daughter. I am also happy to report that I remain committed to my business growth, my clients, and my self-care.
These circumstances have helped me grow in so many ways. Thank you for your support.
Back in balance,
P.S. I have only five slots open this year for new private clients. If you want to change your world exponentially this year and would like to be considered for my Mastery Coaching Program, please apply here.
Success Story:
Janis is one of the most amazing and powerful executive coaches I have had the pleasure of working with. She literally helped me to break through barriers that had been keeping me stuck for years. She is nurturing and caring; yet, strong and effective. Her primary goal is to move you forward and hold you as powerful at all times. This is truly a gift to be on this call with her as she shares her wisdom.
~for Texas Business Women Association presentation 01/22/15
[Current OWWL Journey] Why Don’t We Keep Our New Year’s Resolutions?
Happy New Year! Are you shooting at a paper target or writing in stone? This time of year, so many of us have made New Year’s resolutions, and many of us have already broken them…or know we will. Whether we will keep or break a resolution can depend on the underlying context, or perspective, from which it was created and also on the level of integrity we practice with ourselves.
CONTEXT: If you make resolutions that involve “I should,” “I have to,” or “I need to,” you have already set yourself up to break your resolution, since you are not creating from an empowered foundation. The same is true if you are trying to control, judge, look good, or keep from looking bad. Example: “I have to lose 30 pounds before my high school reunion.” You may or may not indeed take off the 30 pounds, and chances are good that you will gain them back after the reunion is over.
In contrast, empowered perspectives, or contexts, include purpose, vision, commitment, promise, choice, self-value, and self care. Example: “Since I see myself as healthy, energetic, and fit, I resolve to take exquisite care of my body and to release the 30 extra pounds that I no longer choose to carry with me.” Here you have empowered yourself and your choice to take the weight off and to more likely keep it off.
INTEGRITY: Which of these words describes your New Year’s resolutions?
- Resolution: The thing determined upon; decision as to future action showing a fixed, firm purpose
- Goal: An object or end that one strives to attain; aim
- Commitment: Binding, as by a promise or pledge to do something
- Promise: An oral or written agreement to do or not to do something; vow; basis for expectation
- Pledge: Security for the performance of a contract, guarantee, promise, agreement
- Vow: Dedicating oneself to an act, service, or way of life; solemn affirmation or assertion or declaration
What is your relationship to these concepts? In other words, if you make a promise to yourself, what is the likelihood that you will break it? If you set a goal, what is predictable…will you attain your goal or will you quit before you cross the finish line? Do you practice high levels of integrity with commitments you make to others but commitments to yourself dissolve at the first obstacle?
As we move forward into the new decade, consider making resolutions from an empowered, purposeful, vision and practicing high-level integrity to and for yourself. I then predict your experience of life will expand in power, joy, and fulfillment.
Joyful New Year,
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Success Story:
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[Current OWWL Journey] My Joy and Sorrow of this Season
Joyous day and many blessings to you and your loved ones! Thank you for being on this earth. You are a gift to those in your life, some that you may not even know, including me. You are a gift to be in my life, whether it be close or distant.
For many of us the joy part of this season may be natural and easy; for others of us we feel sorrow this time of year and can’t wait for the season to end. This happened to me.
For many reasons, including some I’ve written here, I have been feeling down lately. December is a hard month for me historically, since my mother committed suicide on December 8, six days before my seventh birthday. Christmas, of course, was right after that, so viscerally the memories of loss, worthlessness, and sorrow came up year after year. I either went crazy with decorating, shopping, and parties to mask the grief, or else I was lost down a black hole. This weekend I started to descend into that black hole again. I found myself worrying about many things.
To change the mood, I put on some music and began to dance. Dancing brought up memories, including joyful times as well as sad ones. When Roger Whittaker sang “All that I Want for Christmas,” a waltz I had performed for a Christmas show many years ago, I burst into tears and sobbed for several minutes. I didn’t know what the emotion was, but I knew something deep inside was touched, and I gave myself permission to feel it and let it out. My joy returned.
I think connecting with our emotions and allowing them to be OK helps us to be authentic and to not be stuck. I wasn’t always so skilled, as I mentioned above. Here is the story about how I changed my context from sorrow to joy in December.
In 2003, my new husband helped me to change my context for this season. Jay gifted me with the “Twelve Days of Birthday,” starting on December 8. (He did not realize the significance of this date.) His creativity, planning, and generosity of spirit showed me a whole new perspective of this sorrowful time.
“Twelve Days of Birthday” was a twist on the song, “Twelve Days of Christmas.” He woke me daily with the next part of the song and a gift. On the first day of birthday he sang, “On the first day of birthday my true love gave to me a partridge in a pear tree,” and he gave me a partridge ornament. The next day he sang, “On the second day of birthday my true love gave to me two purple gloves (rhyming with two turtle doves). Of course, the gift was the pair of purple gloves. The third gift was three French pens, rhyming with three French hens, as in the Christmas song. Each day the gift rhymed with the words in the Christmas song. The final day Jay warned me that the gift was coming in the evening, not the morning. At 6:00 pm on day 12 the doorbell rang and exactly 12 friends came bringing the dinner items Jay had requested of them. Instead of 12 drummers drumming, we had 12 tummies yumming! And Jay sang the whole song for the group.
I will always be grateful to Jay for showing me how much I was loved and cared for with this delightful gift. If you are feeling sorrow today, please remember you are a precious gift. Do something wonderful for yourself today, big or small.
With love to you,
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[O.W.W.L. Success Tip] Lifting the weight of “Should’s” and “Have To’s”
Last year I made a decision to stay at home for the holidays instead of traveling to see in-laws, as we usually do. I chose to lay aside guilt, potential disapproval, and potential judgment.
O.W.W.L. Success Tip: Avoiding guilt and disapproval doesn’t help anyone, even you.
I have always been a people pleaser, wanting to help others and putting their best interests ahead of mine. The problem with this pattern is that I don’t get my own needs and wants met, which can cause fatigue, burnout, resentment, and self-pity. Not an empowered way to live!
In addition, guilt and fear of judgment doesn’t help anyone else either. AND it doesn’t make people like you any better than they did before.
I had worked very hard to create a six-figure business, expanding my programs, hiring new team, and increasing my clientele. To create our next year goals and strategies in a powerful way, I needed some down time. Traveling, living out of a suitcase, and relative interaction would not have given me the clarity and peace required. This was not a spontaneous choice. There will be consequences. But it was an empowered choice.
How will you stay in clarity and peace during the hectic holiday time? To what will you say no so that you can say yes to what really counts?
Believing in your powerful choices,
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[OWWL Journey] Celebration and Gratitude of Life – Yours and Mine!
Do you know that one of the things which holds us back from reaching our goals with speed and power is the lack of celebration and gratitude? If we are always stressed out about not doing enough, accomplishing enough, or having enough, then we haven’t been celebrating enough! If we focus on what’s wrong instead of being thankful for our blessings, then we negate our blessings.
What will you celebrate today? What are you grateful for today? I am grateful for my life, my health, my husband, my family, my friends, and my coaching clients. I am grateful for living in this country and having a purposeful career. I am grateful that you are reading my posts.
We can always find what’s wrong and what doesn’t work. Today find what’s right and what does work!
With gratitude and celebration for my life,
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