[OWWL Success Tip] Do you let other people’s opinions determine your worth?
As a premier Ontological Wealth, Weight, and Leadership coach, I have seen people suppress their greatness due to fear of the reactions of others opinions. You may be holding yourself back in many ways and don’t even know it. Suppression of your authentic, powerful self is #9 of my O.W.W.L. Sabotage Patterns and can be easily shifted once you are aware of it.
[O. W. W. L. Success Tip] What other people think of you is none of your business (Click to Tweet)
When we are afraid of what others think about us, we suppress our true selves. When we suppress ourselves, we devalue ourselves, diminishing our self-worth. Suppression shows up in your life in ways which you may not have identified. Here are some common patterns, and they may be conscious or unconscious:
- If I make too much money, people won’t like or accept me.
- If I speak my opinion, people will get angry.
- If I set strong boundaries about what I want and don’t want, people will leave.
- If I show my emotions, I will appear weak.
- If I let my emotions out, I won’t be able to stop them, and I’ll lose control.
- If I share or celebrate my accomplishments, people will think I’m vain.
- If I am too happy (or sad), people won’t want to be around me.
- If I make a mistake, I will look stupid.
All of these mindsets and more keep us suppressed and inauthentic. They keep us safe and mediocre. Notice where you are suppressing yourself, and notice why. Your insights will fascinate you!
If you want to learn more about the O.W.W.L. 9 Ontological Sabotage Patterns, especially the #1 top sabotage pattern preventing permanent weight loss, please download my free report now!
Warmly,
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Success Story:
Janis is one of the most amazing and powerful executive coaches I have had the pleasure of working with. She literally helped me to break through barriers that had been keeping me stuck for years. She is nurturing and caring; yet, strong and effective. Her primary goal is to move you forward and hold you as powerful at all times. It is truly a gift to work with her!
~ Becky J. Benes, Transformational Speaker
Authentic Leadership Development Coach
www.OnenessOfLife.com
[OWWL Success Tip] Is your team better than you are? …Do you even have a team?
Announcement: Team Janis is growing, and I am excited to announce our newest member!
Colleen Fiser, Online Business Manager, has been doing a great job in supporting our Ontological Wealth, Weight, and Leadership Mastery coaching business. With sales and marketing strategy, implementation, project management, and related business expansion areas, she and our Technical Virtual Assistant, Shannon are making magic in areas outside my unique brilliance, and I feel the wind beneath my wings.
Colleen partners with entrepreneurs to provide business and marketing services, including day-to-day task management of projects, operations, team members, and metrics, to help her clients drive traffic, increase engagement with their customers, and grow their business. In her spare time, she enjoys golfing with her husband, Jeff, and spending time in her garden.
I am so pleased to be supported in this way. Welcome, Colleen!
Success Tip: If you try to do it all, you will be a jack-of-all-trades and master of none! (Click to Tweet)
Many of us, especially entrepreneurs, do everything ourselves in order to save money or to maintain control. The problem with doing everything is that we don’t have enough time or energy to excel in any area or to grow our businesses easily.
While it requires an investment, building team saves time, energy, and money in the long run. If you hire people who know more than you do in their area of expertise, they become that wind beneath your wings, as are Shannon and Colleen for me.
Give yourself permission today to delegate one task or ask help from one more person to add fuel to your success.
Warmly,
P. S. If you are ready for the next level of your excellence and support in the areas of Wealth, Weight, or Leadership, please apply for a private breakthrough session with me!
Success Story:
Janis is like a mystical spiritual guide, a loving mother, and a tough-as-nails track coach rolled into one. With her wisdom and intuition combined with a practical ability to get results on the ground, she is a highly effective coach. In one month, I accomplished goals that were incredibly important to me, and all the while I felt understood and supported. If ever I have things I’d like to accomplish and don’t see how, I’ll definitely call on Janis.
~ Megan Feldman, Denver, CO
[O.W.W.L. Success Tip] The Weight of Nurturing…OR…Whose circus ring are you leading
Do you ever have the problem of not enough time or energy to do everything? Do you ever feel like you are the go-to person with all the responsibility? Do you ever think you are the main act by juggling all the balls at a time? The Weight of Nurturing drags us down in more “weighs” than you know.
O.W.W.L. Success Tip: It’s not your circus, and those are not your monkeys! – CLICK TO TWEET
When we expend our energy in too many directions and want some of it back, one great place to examine is whose circus we are trying to ring lead. Is it really yours? Or does the circus and those monkeys belong to someone else? Are you supporting someone who is fully capable of handling it herself? Are you worrying about something over which you have no control? Are you prioritizing others over yourself?
All these examples may be signs that you are not leading your own circus and nurturing your own monkeys. If you find yourself weighed down with nurturing others, it’s time to say, “No.”. Adopt my new mantra, “It’s not my circus, and those aren’t my monkeys” this week.
Please let me know what differences you notice!
Ring leader of Janis’circus,
P.S. I have a few private coaching spots still available. Please share this opportunity with someone who is ready to be the best version of themselves in the areas of Wealth, Weight, or Leadership. They may apply here for a complimentary coaching session.
Success Story:
I wanted to say how much I enjoyed your speaking to SHSMD (Society of Healthcare Strategy and Market Development) earlier this month. Your information (Create an Authentic and Powerful Leading Role) was very insightful. As a board member, we strive to bring in speakers who can challenge and teach us how to grow in our personal and business life. You did that. I wish you continued success and hope our paths cross again.
~ Barbara Stewart, Community Liaison, French Funerals
[Current OWWL Journey] Taking a sabbatical and good news!
You may have read on Tuesday about the “poop filter,” and how it messes up communication. So when my daughter said, “I don’t want your help; I just want to be left alone,” my friend Kathy told me about the filter and reminded me to not take it personally.
So in deference to my dear daughter, I am taking a sabbatical from “helping” her. This is rough on me, as a natural nurturer. But I love her and choose to heed her wishes.
So I’m taking a short sabbatical…a couple of weeks of no contact via phone or text. I’m also taking exquisite personal self-care in the meantime: more sleep, good nutrition and exercise, being with friends, and attending a training conference with my girlfriend/colleagues.
Good News! My book manuscript is now ready for production! This is a project of the heart that has finally come to fruition. I’ll let you know when it is in print. In the meantime, what title do you prefer, or do you have another idea? Leave your suggestions below…
- Lose Weight for Life: 9 Unconscious Reasons You Can’t Keep Your Weight Off and What to Do About It
- The Missing Ingredient: When Exercise and Diet Aren’t Enough to Keep Your Weight Off
- Fat Between The Ears: Shifting Sabotage Patterns so Weight Loss is Never a Problem Again
Thank you in advance for sharing your thoughts on the title, and thank you to all who are supporting me personally and professionally.
Warmly,
P.S. Do you know someone who is ready to be the best version of themselves and to change their world exponentially this year? Maybe you? Please invite them to apply for a private, no-obligation consultation. I have a limited number of slots remaining.
Success Story:
So thank you so much for being a part of my life. You have no idea how big of an influence you have played in my life, in turn, a part of my entire part of my family’s life. Thank you!
Maurice Derochers, Burlington, Ontario, CA
[O.W.W.L. Success Tip] How to get back in balance when you’re not
Is your life out of balance? Are you aware that there are areas in which you spend more time and energy while ignoring or skimping on other areas?
[O.W.W.L. Success Tip] Balance yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually (Click to Tweet)
Being out of balance means that something is not being taken care of or addressed while you give something else priority. You can operate this way for a time, but at some point breakdowns will occur. For instance, if you have neglected your physical well being such as sleep, exercise, nutrition, etc., you may get sick. If you have concentrated exclusively on work, you may get burned out. If you have not expressed your emotional needs, you may go into a depression. If you have not strengthened your spiritual well being, you may become resigned or hopeless. If you have focused on pleasing others, you may have neglected your own dreams and possibilities, which eventually causes resentment, guilt, and/or remorse.
Review your life’s areas. Notice areas in which you expend too much energy and time. Notice areas in which you expend too little energy and time. Is this what you want? You get to choose. Tweak.
To your balanced and peaceful year,
P.S. I have only five slots open this year for new private clients. If you want to change your world exponentially this year and would like to be considered for my Mastery Coaching Program, please apply here.
Success Story:
Janis is one of the most amazing and powerful executive coaches I have had the pleasure of working with. She literally helped me to break through barriers that had been keeping me stuck for years. She is nurturing and caring; yet, strong and effective. Her primary goal is to move you forward and hold you as powerful at all times. This is truly a gift to be on this call with her as she shares her wisdom.
~for Texas Business Women Association presentation 01/22/15
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